I’ll never forgive tumblr for being so quick to shit on the concept of “queer platonic” relationships bc even outside of asexual/aromantic relationships, the bond I’ve shared with other queer women in a non romantic, non sexual way has been wildly different and more intimate than any friendships I’ve ever had with cishet people, even when we’re not as close as my cishet friends. the fact that y'all were like “relationships are strictly within these categories there is only familial, platonic, sexual, and romantic” like yall pls 😭 queer connection and bonding is so much deeper and more complex than that. get offline and connect with some of your community i beg
hope you don’t mind me adding your tags on, but yes, exactly this. its actually talked about among sapphics pretty often as like a hallmark middle school/high school experience to have a super close female friend who you did not have a specific crush on, but were somehow closer than all your other friends with, and ultimately lost in a way that felt like a breakup despite the platonic nature of the relationship.
and society is going to respond with a lot of bullshit like “you mean its just friendship” or “you mean it was a crush” bc it lives in a binary where you’re either in a romantic/sexual relationship, or you’re friends; and it’s bc they cannot comprehend that the feelings we experience do not fit neatly into their pre concieved boxes, just like how being queer never did that either.
There was this girl. I met her on a train. The first time I saw her, she was covered in coffee and smelled like pancakes, and she was beautiful like a city you always wanted to go to, like how you wait years and years for the right time, and then as soon as you get there, you have to taste everything and touch everything and know every street by name. I felt like I knew her. She reminded me who I was. She had soft lips and green eyes and a body that wouldn’t quit. Hair like you wouldn’t believe. Stubborn, sharp as a knife. And I never, ever wanted a person to save me until she did.
